April 17th – Another day in the life of ….

Leaving everyone with some reading today.  I never knew there were so many articles related to cyberbullying in one day.  And it spans the nationally and internationally.  I read an article today against cyberviolence that stated that before any government would ever consider changes, it would usually be up to the citizens to make a voice – just like MADD (Mothers Against Drunk Driving).  So why not form a group called something like …  PACE (Parents/People Against Cyberviolence Everywhere).  If anyone can come up with some different acronyms, share them please.

What was the world like 10 years ago for teenagers?  When did cyber-technology take over the brains and texting fingers of our youth?

Are more people and kids speaking out about being cyberbullied?

What happens when cyberbullying is reported?  Especially in the U.S. where there are cyberbullying laws and legislation.  Are there charges or restorative justice programs?  Is this a deterrent?

How do we work towards eliminating the incidences?

Do more kids have to ‘lose their life’ before the message gets through?

There aren’t many positives written tonight.  All those articles below distressed me.

It is unfortunate in the world today, that there are so many children, youth and adults who are unable to filter their mouths and their brains and cause hurt amongst the people living in this world.  It’s a shame that these individuals have something in them that causes them to unjustly ridicule others.  It is these people that need to read the articles and visit the homes of the families that they have hurt.

Nite … xoxo

 

Cyberbully cases rally Clarkstown parents
The Journal News | LoHud.com
The incident was just the latest case of cyberbullying, parents said. Earlier this month, Superintendent of Schools J. Thomas Morton sent a letter to parents saying police were investigating inappropriate social media messages and asked them to monitor 
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Home of CYBERBULLIES
News24
Cyber-bullying is worse than confrontational or physical bullying in that the targets of this abuse can be reached no matter where they are – even in the ‘safety’ of their own homes and bedrooms. The cyber-bulliesenjoy the ease with which they can 
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New Anti-Bullying Campaign Sweeps the United States
Wall Street Journal
ATLANTA, April 17, 2013 /PRNewswire/ — “Submit the Documentary” an award winning cyberbullying film has had over 100 private screenings in the United States and Canada requested; launches its first anti-bullying campaign: #NoBystanders. The film is 
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Forget the Rineharts’ feud: T Boone Pickens sues his son for cyber bullying
The Australian Financial Review
Legendary US oil billionaire T Boone Pickens is embroiled in an ugly family feud, suing his son Michael for cyber bullying and cyber stalking. Boone, who is valued at $US1.4 billion by Forbes, has been joined by three of his other children in the suit.
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The Australian Financial Review
Making it easy to report cyber bullying
Public Service
Cyber bullying is any form of bullying that involves the use of mobile phones or the internet. According to the NSPCC, 38 per cent of young people have been affected by cyber bullying, with abusive emails and text messages being the most common methods.
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Public Service
Cyberbullying Expert Speaks to Students in Loyal – WSAW
WSAW
The co-director of the Cyberbullying Research Center was on hand in Loyal Wednesday to help teens understand how misusing technology can cause harm to their peers. Dr. Justin Patchin, of the University of Wisconsin- Eau Claire, has co-authored a book 
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‘I’m in hell’: cruel twist in case of alleged sexual assault, cyber-bullying 
Newcastle Herald
They appeared in a juvenile court in San Jose on Tuesday on charges of misdemeanour sexual battery, felony distribution of child pornography and felony forcible sexual penetration in an incident that raises questions of exactly what cyber-bullying means.
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The truth about cyber bullying – what’s the point?
Tillsonburg News
For years, teachers and the government have been drilling the same thing into our heads: cyber bullying is unacceptable. The media makes it seem as though cyber bullying is all over the place and happens 24 hours a day. But when I log on to Facebook 
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Infographic: The Truth About Mobile, Online Cyberbullying
Mobile Marketing Watch
Infographic The Truth About Mobile Online Cyberbullying 300×223 Infographic: The Truth About Mobile, Online From harassing text messages to demeaning social network comments, teens face a barrage of all-too-common digital bullying tactics in today’s 
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Mobile Marketing Watch

 

Web 5 new results for cyberbullying
Police, prosecutors failing sex-assault cyberbullying victims, experts 
Calls for new legislation miss the point, some experts say. The problem lies with a system that isn’t keeping up with the fast-evolving social media landscape.
www.theglobeandmail.com/news/…sex…/article11176341/
Cyberbullying’s roots are offline, not on a computer screen – The 
Technology should not become society’s scapegoat.
www.theglobeandmail.com/…roots-are…/article11211406/
Cyberbullying: time for more than talk | TheSpec.com
Prime Minister Stephen Harper has usefully reminded Canadians that Rehtaeh Parsons was a victim of criminal activity, not merely the unfortunate…
www.thespec.com/…/918913–cyberbullying-time-for-more-th…
Pulling the plug on cyberbullying | Local | News | Chatham Daily News
Hubley spoke about the impact cyber bullying had on his son Jamie, who killed himself in Oct. 2011. DIANA MARTIN/ THE CHATHAM DAILY NEWS/ QMI 
www.chathamdailynews.ca/…/pulling-the-plug-on-cyberbullyi…
Cyberbullying still rare, Toronto student survey shows | Globalnews.ca
Cyberbullying has been everywhere in the news for the most wrenching of reasons. But Toronto teens say they’re still more likely to get teased, taunted or 
globalnews.ca/…/student-census-toronto-teens-say-theyre-mor…

About Carol Todd

Being the mother of Amanda Todd has lead me on this journey shortly after Amanda's death on October 10, 2012. Amanda's prolific You Tube video has been viewed over 33 million times. Through this video, there has been an increased awareness about cyberbullying, social media safety and mental health. www.amandatoddlegacy.org
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19 Responses to April 17th – Another day in the life of ….

  1. Andria says:

    É ISTO AI cAROL VAMOS CAUSAR !!!! Gostei muito do que li hoje ..amanhã termino de ler mais hoje estou cansada demais estou dominada beijos a todos força~Carol lindaaa!!!

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    • Tristan says:

      Stepping in for la Punisher while away…
      Andria Translation ::: IS THIS WILL CAUSE AI Carol!! I really liked what I read today .. tomorrow finish reading more today I’m too tired dominated kisses to all force ~ Carol lindaaa!!

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  2. Savetheworld says:

    How about PEACE parents/people everywhere against cyberbullying epidemic !!

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  3. Tristan says:

    I always have been thinking about that in the last few months, if they can have a Non profit organization like MADD then why can’t their be one for bullying or cyber violence. I think I mentioned it a few times elsewhere. PACE is a good one, I like that idea. Lets put our heads together and come up with a few more and pick the best one, love the idea. we ought to get this going ..I was a teen just over 10 years ago , and its interesting , because I had this discussion with a 19 year old just the other day in comparing what its like from 10 years ago as a teen to todays world being a teen. This person couldn’t imagine the world without cellphones or internet among other things. There was cellphones back then but not like how they are now,,, they were a lot bigger ,, no cameras or texting , that kind of thing. I never seen a cellphone in school ,, there might of been the odd one or two here and there, pagers were the thing then. (do those still exist?). It wasn’t everyone that had a computer (with the internet) back then either ,, I never had one up until a few years ago. No facebook, youtube all that stuff just wasn’t around. There definitely wasn’t much interaction over computers back then anyway , mainly they were just used for research and things at least with myself and the ones I grew up with. In school we only had one room that had computers in it , called ‘the computer room’ , were we would go do certain projects or take courses like INFO processing. I could just imagine what schools would look like these days. Its probably almost a requirement to bring a laptop or something now a days lol. I heard they don’t even use chalkboards in the classrooms anymore ??? something to do with the dust from the chalk? ,, I have no idea if this is true or not, (maybe someone could confirm). I couldn’t imagine a classroom without a chalkboard,, that just blows my mind.

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    • merle48 says:

      Sorry Tristan, I had to laugh at that…no dust allowed…harmful to students? Uh, okay, THAT is a REAL concern! Somehow all of us older people managed to survive the dust? (sarcasm)

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      • Tristan says:

        LOL ,, yeah i know,right!!! It just seems so ridiculous, if that is the main reason for taking out the chalk board. I mean,, worry about the littlest of concerns and make change while the major problems are still floating about and causing serious damage to our youth’s. And i dont know how we ever made it through that chalk dust! what were they thinking? lol

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  4. Hamsi says:

    And yes, the PACT/PACE is a great idea.

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  5. Hamsi says:

    Carol to the point in your last paragraph, I have also been mystified at the way people seem so ready to shoot off hurtful and crude thoughts, without stopping to think. I think modern technology is one culprit, although lack of empathy is another. It is so easy to type away at a keyboard and then hit enter or click the send button. The fact that you can be anonymous while you do this helps….

    Maybe if everyone has to pay to be members of message boards, social media sites etc. there will be more civil dialogue!

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    • merle48 says:

      To Hamsi, you are right about technology and more so about empathy. You got me to realize that maybe we put too much blame on “high tech”and not enough on the good morals that should be taught at home…this is lacking, so maybe more parent workshops. Then again you “can lead the horse to water, but you can’t make them drink.”

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      • Hamsi says:

        Yes, Merle48, parents are the best arbiters of morals, and perhaps schools should also do more (focus on developing good human beings and not just politically correct human beings!)

        A recent study actually established this diminishing empathy as a generationally evolving phenomenon and also found that reading increased empathy among the same cohort!

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  6. merle48 says:

    I sense the anger and frustration in your words today…that in itself is powerful. I still believe very strongly that mental health and family dynamics contribute the most to the problem as they go hand and hand with self=esteem, tolerance of others and good morals. The problem is so complex, yet I think a little common sense could alleviate alot of basic misunderstandings. We also have to examine why so many of these children/people are ending their lives so nonchalantly (it seems).This is the part that disturbs me the most…the part where the person should “pick themselve up,brush themselves off and forge ahead …there appears to be a “learned helplessness” that these individuals have. Many of the answers can probably be found by examining our culture…and maybe our past history should be used as a comparison to see why we as a so-called advanced species still don’t have a clue!

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    • Savetheworld says:

      @ Merle48 I don’t think the world understands enough about depression and anxiety, neuroscience is relatively new field. It is extremely difficult to understand unless you or a friend, family member etc have experienced it. Being a teenager already has its difficulties!! Stress\problems especially at that age ( the brain is not even fully formed until after 18) will create an imbalance in your brain chemistry, making you feel horrid. I mean hopeless helpless etc. the neurotransmitter serotonin dies not get produced normally ( this regulates mood) Now couple that with constant bullying and constant attacks on a person and you will destroy them! Some people also have a predisposition to this, it very likely is genetic. Part if the problem is that we lead sedentary lives which is so unhealthy for the brain this do many depressed anxious people! Technology has destroyed us we have not mutated or evolved to handle this lack if movement we were made to be gatherers and hunters. Add divorces to that etc and there you go a recipe for disaster!!

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      • merle48 says:

        I agree with you about our ignorance in neuroscience, however I go back to the way prescription pills are prescribed for so many problems such as these instead of “talk therapy.” Like you said, ” the brain is not fully formed until after age 18″ so to me it’s elementary why these powerful drugs should not be prescribed so easily. They probably create more of an imbalance! This could be one small reason that many of these kids take their lives, as I would want to know how many of them were prescribed something for depression/anxiety. Doctors must spend more quality time with these vulnerable patients instead of saying, “Take two of these and call me in the morning.” Yes technology is a beautiful invention gone bad! But I don’t want you or anyone to think that I meant it should be EASY to “brush yourself off, and get up again,” I just tried to make a comparison with NOW and 40 years ago…these tragedies were no where near as common….we must consider every factor as to why such a vast difference now exists.

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    • Savetheworld says:

      Merle48 you know I love you I love all the people and supporters here!! 🙂 I have heard that anti-depressants for kids may cause suicidal tendencies they need to be watched closely the first two weeks. I personally believe that they don’t know enough about these drugs and their reactions. i believe each brain is wired differently it may work for one person but not another. sometimes you can only find the right med through trial and error, so yes it could be dangerous. I know a lot of people including myself that would not have survived without them, especially during trying times. There is still a stigma associated with it and i dont understand why My doctor always said if you were diabetic wouldntyou take your meds?

      Here’s what I found on the Harvard medical publications:

      Self-destructive feelings and thoughts in patients taking SSRIs may be the result of anxiety or akathisia. Sometimes a person with hidden bipolar disorder receives an antidepressant and develops an irritable manic reaction. Some patients may recover their energy and therefore their ability to act before mood improves or hope returns. The danger is greatest in the first few weeks of treatment. If a patient begins to have suicidal thoughts after many months on an antidepressant, the drug is probably not to blame. It’s more likely to be caused by the underlying illness.

      Yes doctors do prescribe pills way too quickly sometimes without blinking an eye but you have to outweighs the risk vs the benefits 😦 the good news is we are making progress.

      Bottom line is life should not be this trying and difficult for kids and teenagers the world is messed up. We need to fix it!

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    • Savetheworld says:

      The worse someone could do to you in the old days was to leave you a note or a letter or confront you. Now it’s a free for all! People can comment everywhere anonymously say the worse most disgusting things and zero consequences! a great place for people especially ill people to get all their frustrations out on strangers and innocent good people. Until we attach a real human behind an account we will always have this problem. It’s unacceptable!!!

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      • merle48 says:

        To Savetheworld, I stil believe the meds are prescribed without enough history. You are correct…people are wired differently and some have a positive outcome, (glad you did) but too many sufferers are prescribed meds without really working with them such as cognitive therapy, etc. I’m sorry, but I have witnessed a few…no, alot of aquaintances including my older daughter, with negative effects. It was so scary, but thank God she realized they were hurting her more than helping. You also reminded me of my youth, when a nasty (scarlet) letter was the way to spill all the untruths. I’m afraid we advanced too fast technologically, and now we must search backwards and figure out where the heck we went wrong. I admire your opinions very much.

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      • Savetheworld says:

        And I admire yours!!! ❤

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      • Savetheworld says:

        @Merle48 You got me thinking! You made a very good point! They gave me Welbutrin once years ago to try and I have friends on it ( seems like the whole world is turning to antidepressants and anti anxiety meds these days. We have not evolved quickly enough to keep up with technology and all of current life’s stressors). It made me uncomfortable in my own skin! I was on vacation on one of those carts they take you around in and I wanted to jump of off it and rip my skin off I swear It made me overly anxious and just made me feel awful. I was smart and stopped them that day! What if a parent or doctor forced a child to keep taking these pills if they didn’t agree with them ? it would be disastrous!! I never ever felt like that before. It was messing with my brain in a very negative way. It was disturbing! I wish they could find a way to match a person with the right med. So yes you were correct sir! When you find the right one though, it does work magic it takes the edge off and removes the sadness but covers up the real issue behind the pain. That needs to be addressed as well. Meds also hurt tour liver. Carol is right we need more psychologists. Free psychologists. Psychologists charge $100-150 an hour! Who can afford that? Only the rich.

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  7. Savetheworld says:

    Yes let’s do it!!! Parents\people Against Cyberbullying Together (PACT)
    n.
    1. A formal agreement, such as one between nations; a treaty.
    2. A compact; a bargain.

    We have to start a nonprofit organization!! Let’s do it I’m in!! ❤

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