I often remember those words as I was growing up. You had givers and you had takers. It always feels good to give but then there is always that urge to take too. So where do most people in the world fall? What makes people give in their life? And what makes people take? Are all those that take good? What are truly the benefits of having both qualities?
When raising children as parents or educating them as teachers, we are continually encouraging children to give and share. This is such an important part of the human chain. We only hope that when ‘the child’ grows up to become ‘the youth’ and then ‘the adult’, that they generate compassion and caring for others. I guess that the opposite of ‘give and take‘ could/would be ‘share and steal‘. What an interesting comparison. We would hope that taking and stealing will eventually cease to exist. But one can take an steal things in many forms.
One form would be of concrete nature. You can steal personal belongings and objects. You can see them as well as touch, feel and taste. Another form would be less tangible. You can take/steal thoughts. You can take/steal words. You can take/steal emotions. And horribly, you can also take/steal a human life. That would be the cruelest form but I guess when you think about it, bullying/cyberbullying/exploiting a person are actions that can be described as taking or stealing. When the emotions of one gets so bad that the person (whether young or old or boy or girl or man or woman) wants to end their life, the takers have gone to far.
What should happen to the takers? If guilty beyond a reasonable doubt, those involved should be penalized with the natural consequence to their actions. I have always believe that, even with children, the punishment should fit the crime. Some natural consequences might be harder to determine but with thought and care, something would deem suitable. Takers must be held accountable. I wonder in life, what makes a ‘mean spirited taker’ do what he/she does. Was it something in the air? in the water? Was someone not nice to them during childhood? teenagehood? Are they playing out the ‘kick the dog, kick the cat, kick the bird’ scenario? How are they in their real world of working? socializing? Are they nice to their parents/grandparents?
How do we find out how a taker ticks? I am sure we meet them all the time in our everyday lives. Here are some thoughts for the ‘takers in the world’ would be for you to realize what you have done in your life that has been both meaningless and meaningful. Then take all those meaningless events and reflect on them. If you could relive your moments, how would you change them? What would you say to the person that you ‘took’ from? Ponder why it is important for you to take from someone. Their laughter. Their love. Their spirit. Their integrity. And eventually their life.
Amanda was taken away many takers. If you go back to her You Tube video, watch it and see how many times things were taken from her.
Amanda can no longer can give in the real life sense. However, she continues to give with her legacy and the words found on her computer. She wants to give back the ability to fight to all those kids out there being bullied. She wants to help and teach others to be strong.
To all those out there that took parts of my daughter spirit away (in life and now in death), I hope you know who you are and how to make changes to MAKE A DIFFERENCE. For those of you who still laugh and post sh*t, think about any future children you might have and put them in the place of yourself or those that you are tormenting.