April 29 – To be young, wild and free of ….

We always say as ‘older people’, what it would be like to be young and free.  I’m sure that lots of young teens would look at you in bewilderment and think, it’s not that great a life.

I’m not sure when the critical point came but why is it that so many young kids are suffering from depression, anxiety and thoughts of self harm.  I am not talking about kids directly in my community but all over.   In other parts of my province.  In other provinces across Canada.  In the U.S.   In Europe.  The list goes on.  I have heard from many young persons asking where they should go for help.  This makes me think.  Are they not given the tools and resources at their schools?  Or are they too afraid to ask.  I know that many young kids are saying they don’t want their parents to find out.  That is NOT a good thing.  Others have said that they just don’t know where to turn.  I am not sure what makes them find me.  But when they do,  I want to be armed with the resources to tell them where they need to go for help.

I think that when we open the doors to discussion, like we have been, we need to make sure that there are resources in place and people who can help.  We certainly don’t want to miss those opportunities when kids are ready to talk.  I had a girlfriends daughter talk to me today on the phone.   The girl admitted that she wasn’t doing well.  Like most teens, she didn’t know why or what the trigger was.  Alot of it seems to stem from friendships, harassment, social media, feelings of insecurities, and list goes on.

Maybe we need to build in ‘Wellness’ into our school curriculums.  And not just focus on it sporadically but every day.  We need to build healthy bodies and healthy minds before any form of academic schooling can occur.  How many schools teach that on a daily basis?  If your son/daughter has it in their curriculum, please let us know.  I think for now, that is what is needed.  It is a life skill.  As I might have previously said in a blog in the past 6 months, life is fragile. It moves by every so quickly. There seem to be so many more demands on our youth, young adults and even older adults.

It’s time for a change of thought patterns and a change of pace.  Are stresses any less in smaller communities that away from the big city life?  Or how about the communities that are unplugged from technology?

I am including this article on teen suicide and prevention.  I have others if you want them. Just let me know.

Teen suicide warning signs and resources – Kentucky Post
Suicide is the third leading cause of death for youth between the ages of 10 and 24, according to a 2012 Centers for Disease Control report. That translates into about 4,600 lives lost each year. Forty-five percent of those youths used a firearm 
See all stories on this topic »

459975_643538502330383_53963562_o   Forget Me Nots


About Carol Todd

Being the mother of Amanda Todd has lead me on this journey shortly after Amanda's death on October 10, 2012. Amanda's prolific You Tube video has been viewed over 33 million times. Through this video, there has been an increased awareness about cyberbullying, social media safety and mental health. www.amandatoddlegacy.org
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11 Responses to April 29 – To be young, wild and free of ….

  1. Andria says:

    Bom dia !!
    Li o post ontem a noite mas não deixei comentário algum ..é difícil para mim opinar sobre este assunto suicídio, ser livre na adolescência, fui muito reservada uma garota que sofreu a adolescência toda calada .Só posso dizer que quando somos crianças adolescentes ..podemos ser capazes de falar dos nossos problemas e duvidas para um estranho mas nunca temos a certeza de que podemos falar com nossos pais ,eu sofri buling e permaneci calada nunca disse realmente aos meus pais o que eu passava e quando ganhei o computador ai sim me calei para sempre …hoje sofro violência doméstica e continuo calada …realmente meu coração hoje só quer dar um conselho :
    Controle as crianças ..para que possam controlar os adolescentes …os pais precisam mostrar que são amigos antes de serem pais ..deem computadores para seus filhos …mas mostrem as crianças o que pode ser usado e o que não pode .As vezes um não abre portas para a felicidade!!!


    • la Punisher says:

      Translation for Andria:…
      Good morning!
      Read the post last night but left no comment .. it’s hard for me to opine on this subject suicide, being free in adolescence, I was very reserved a girl who suffered adolescence all quiet. I can only say that when children are teenagers .. may be able to talk about our problems and questions to a stranger but never have the certainty that we can talk to our parents, I suffered buling and remained silent never actually said to my parents what I did, and when I got the computer oh yeah me shut up forever … today suffer domestic violence and keep quiet my heart today … really just want to give an advice:
      Control children .. so they can control teens … parents need to show that they are friends before .. parents deem computers for their children … but show children what can be used and what can not. Sometimes one does not open doors to happiness!!

      To Adria:
      Isso é um comentário muito sábio, Você “Stay Strong”
      That are a very wise comment, You “Stay Strong”


  2. la Punisher says:

    to Hamsi : I agree


  3. Savetheworld says:

    We’ve all heard the song “video killed the radio star” we’ll “technology killed innocence”! Until policies and laws are put into place, Kids under 18 should not have access to internet, any social media sites and or technology like texting etc. It is destroying them ex their self-esteem etc. Being a tween and teenager is hard enough to begin with, all this added stress is pushing kids over the edge. They are too young and innocent to have to deal with all these new problems and the infrastructure has not been out in place to support them! They need to be kids, doing kid stuff! Period! Yes Carol we need to start new programs in our schools to help them deal with all these new problems. I feel horrible for kids in today’s society. Truly not easy for them. Things need to change! 😦


    • la Punisher says:

      To Savetheworld … I agree with your post and with technology comes a fast changing world, the internet was a good thing but no one was ready for the dark side of it, look at the Liars and pedo’s that came along, These creepy crawlers use to hang around school yards, Now they lurk in the dark corners of the internet, making teenagers lives more unbearable, If only these creeps would grow a life, A big part of the problem would be solved Period


  4. Rita says:

    An actual curriculum starting in kindergarten and building all the way to grade 12….Sounds like a fantastic idea, and one that requires a plan!
    I was just at a workshop this past weekend, and this very idea was mentioned by one of the participants.
    So how can we introduce the concept of self love into our schools? How can we teach our children to love and accept themselves and to really know that they are enough exactly as they are?
    It’s an exellent thought, and one that could transform the lives of so many! Carol as a teacher how does one even start to build such a curriculum? I would support this 100% and would love to be a part of!.


  5. merle48 says:

    I’ve actually told my teens that I would NEVER want to return to that age again, because of the inner turmoil that accompanies it. Is there a harder decade in our lives? I’m sure a lot has to do with the hormones running rampant and strong through their bodies. A person who majored in psychology once told me, “Hormones rule the world.” I pondered that and realized there is a strong correlation between hormones and peoples’ feelings which in turn affect their actions. Couple that with a world full of contradiction in the very areas of life that we try to teach right from wrong, and we have a grand recipe for disaster! Let us not forget the now very common invitation to use a “drug” prescription or otherwise for every little glitch we have. Our society has poor role models for kids such as in sports, movies and music. Many families have inner conflicts which also give a child low self-esteem and a feeling of hopelessness. I personally believe our kids need to learn more work ethics at an early age, as many of us have coddled our own too much. In a sense they have too much time on their hands, and not enough skills for keeping “busy” in a positive way. I believe the combination of all these things inhibits their minds from developing properly and on top of all this we have the “mean” people who themselves are wounded, and want to bring you to your knees as to join their misery…the depression drifts in and sticks like glue. I heard it said that depression is “anger turned inwards” once. Now that is something to ponder!


  6. Paul Murphy says:

    Dear Carol,
    Currently, mental health continues to be framed as a weakness and the stigma that can and often does block people from accessing services.And then there are programs based on zero tollerance,which I feel are more harmful.


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