Each day there are Facebook posts and news articles relating to bullying/cyberbullying and then the onslaught of depression and anxiety in our young people. I was talking to today to a friend who talked about writing an article that would be helpful to parents to identify some of the indicators of their child in distress due to bullying or depression. I started thinking about how that would be written and how it would sound. It triggered in my head that there are many articles and books and websites related to this. It’s the same about organizations with resources and tools that deal with bullying. There are so many groups with resources and workshops. The problem becomes that all these groups try to gain momentum by proving themselves as the better program to use. Then does it become a business venture or one that is meaningful for the purpose of helping kids. I think schools and groups sometimes become overwhelmed with the selection of what to use and who to bring in as a speaker. Word of mouth certainly helps and social media outlets like Twitter can be helpful.
As Raffi explains in his book Light Web/Dark Web, there are two sides to the internet. The Light Web provides us with the abilities to communicate socially with others, use it for daily business ventures, find recipes, read the news, etc. The Dark Side is when social media becomes more challenging. People harass and make fun of others. Young people/adults post malicious and taunting words/pictures/videos of their peers. People tell others that they are worthless and should die. The DARK SIDE. You have to wonder about Pink Floyd’s thoughts when this album came to be. When you go to Wikipedia, it says this “The Dark Side of the Moon‘s themes include conflict, greed, the passage of time, and mental illness, the latter partly inspired by Barrett’s deteriorating mental state.” I found this to be an interesting statement.
It makes you wonder about everyone’s dark side. We are all supposed to have one. But is it possible that we control it in our daily lives. But for some, it is impossible. What makes people want to live on dark side? Is it controllable? Or is it brain chemistry? Like depression and mental illness.
Paris Jackson has been in the hospital. The articles say she is suffering from depression resulting in the past experiences of her family. Probably like PTSD. I only hope that her story continues to raise awareness around the world about how affected we all can be about mental health issues and our youth. I was watching one of the interviews with Paris and Oprah Winfrey done a year ago. Paris was talking about how she had been bullied and cyberbullied but she didn’t let it get to her. She would ignore it. In the article I read last night, there was actually a screenshot where there were comments that were hurtful and horrid. Probably much like the ones that Amanda and Rehtaeh and many others endured. What I am saying is that our kids can go from being perfectly healthy/happy kids to depressed/anxious ones in a matter of a few months. And for some, it is impossible to dig them out of the shell they have started hiding in.
June 7th was Hands Up for Rehtaeh. It was the 2nd month date of her death on April 7, 2013.
June 10th will be an Amanda Todd Balloon Release for Bullying and Mental Health. Not sure how this will go as we only came up with it a few days ago. If you can’t find a balloon, wear purple. Also remember to light a candle to let her know we are thinking about her. It will be the 9th month date since her death on October 10, 2012.
Hopefully for those who do participate, make sure to take a pic that will be posted somewhere for all to see and share. The organizers will post where to upload your pics or you can send them to firstname.lastname@example.org to be posted.
As we approach the 10th of this month, the memories are swirling more than ever before. It’s that darn word ‘Why?’. I went for some shopping therapy today with a friend. It was at our closest shopping mall. Although the shopping was fun, it brought back the memories of Amanda and I shopping. Our last venture out was in September 2012. She wanted clothes for going back to school. It was the first week of September, before the Labour Day holiday. She had so many shopping bags. If you were to still ask me if Amanda had any preconceived notion, I would say no. She had too many events planned for herself from September 2012 until Christmas 2012. Most of which were costly but fun. I wish she could have remembered all these things in her timeline in her darkest moment. Love you Amanda.
Gotta stop now. Kleenex time. xoxo
Stop A Bully – Statistics of bullying and cyberbullying in Canada – http://www.stopabully.ca/bullying-resources/bullying-statistics
Raffi vs Facebook – Maclean’s magazine – (June 2013) – http://www2.macleans.ca/2013/06/07/facebooks-failure-to-protect-young-users-his-call-to-millions-of-beluga-grads-and-don-cherry/
You Tube video from Becca Levy (March 2013) – Fix You – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OE8zEhecJ70
Song – Sia – Breathe Me – http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hSH7fblcGWM&feature=youtu.be