June 16 – Happy Parent Day!!!

Happy Father’s Day to all those dads (and moms) who have taken time out of life to have children and to LOVE, CARE and SHARE their lives with them.  Hold your children close because they grow up way too fast.  And you never know what happens in life!!!

I had the fortunate experience of having over for dinner Simon. He is a French journalist who is originally from France and now living in Montreal.  He will be returning to France this summer.  It was fun listening to him speak.  The ‘H’ sound is kind of missing.  Through the conversation, we talked about Father’s Day.  Simon was unsure of when it was celebrated in France.  So we ‘googled’ it.  Yes, in France, it is also the 3rd Sunday in June.  But … in some other countries, the date is scattered.  http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Father’s_Day

For example – in Switzerland, the date is the first Sunday in June.  I had no idea that it was different in other places.

If you get a chance, go to the BE  BOLD campaign photos on Facebook.  The pics are absolutely beautiful.  And the words are stunning.  Joanne and Susan (and all their elves) did a great job.  The idea behind the whole campaign is wonderful.  I met new people. Saw old friends from another life.  It was perfect.

If you are down in Yaletown, try El Azteca.  Mexican food.  Yum!!

Included below is some reading on cyberbullying.  The one on the bottom by the Red Cross caught my attention.

Also, please take the time to watch this video – http://www.postcrescent.com/videonetwork/2387652543001.  I just watched it and it had impact.  When you watch it and see the empty chairs, it hits you how many people are affected.  180 Americans die each day.  90% of suicides have mental illness attributes.  There is such a stigma about not talking about suicide but yet we talk very openly about heart disease and cancer.  The one statement that inspires me is this — AWARENESS + EDUCATION = BUILDING SUPPORT

It would be great if we could get over not talking about this topic so that we can provide more support as a community to those that are suffering.

Empty chairs show impact of suicide, raise awareness

The “Don’t Sit in Silence” event displayed at Lawrence University Thursday – a powerful representation of the number of people who die from suicide every day in the United Staes – 180 chairs. (May 16, 2013)

Done for the night.  Going to bed early.

xoxo

LETTER: Cyberbullying needs to be stopped
Richmond-News
Many government officials say there is nothing they can do about cyberbullying because it’s on the Internet. We believe there can be more moderation and supervision. By hiring people to supervise Internet activity, it also would create more jobs 
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Facing up to cyber bullies
Timaru Herald
OPINION: Go kill yourself – if you mean it, it is a pretty desperate and dangerous thing to say to someone, especially if their self-esteem is shaky. Which is why most of us would never say that to anyone. The playground bully you came up against at 
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Cyberbullying and its teenage victims
The Times (subscription)
Online hate campaigns can drive their victims to depression – even suicide. Louise France meets the youngsters in the firing line. Sophie Thorne still has some of the messages stored on her phone, even though they were sent a year ago. She sits on the 
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A Complete Anti Cyber Bullying Website Gears for Launch This Week
PR Web (press release)
http://www.nobullying.com, a complete resource website for information on bullying and cyber bullyinggears for launch this week. Share on Twitter Share on Facebook Share on Google+ Share on LinkedIn Email a friend. Putting a stop to Cyber Bullying.
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Canadian Red Cross – Cyberbullying Information from the Canadian 
The Canadian Red Cross cyberbullying program focuses on teaching bystanders how to respond to the bullying to help them put a stop to the situation.
www.redcross.ca/what-we-do/violence…/cyberbullying

xoxo

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About Carol Todd

Being the mother of Amanda Todd has lead me on this journey shortly after Amanda's death on October 10, 2012. Amanda's prolific You Tube video has been viewed over 33 million times. Through this video, there has been an increased awareness about cyberbullying, social media safety and mental health. www.amandatoddlegacy.org
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8 Responses to June 16 – Happy Parent Day!!!

  1. Savetheworld says:

    Depression, anxiety, is also genetic. You may have a genetic predisposition to it. I remember my dr saying that its usually type A personalities that suffer perfectionists, people who care , who are sensitive. Thank God for people like us. I prefer to be in this category than the other. He also said that i had a choice, either meds or exercise. Here is where the problem lies, we lead very sedentary lives, this is very unhealthy for the human brain. . Kids are stuck behind their electronic devices, gone are the days when kids were outdoirs running around having fun keeping active. These substances they are experimenting with are also not helping them they are making them more depressed. They are also laced with other potent substances that are probably damaging to the brain. The foods we eat also affect our brains. We need to eat healthy to ensure our brains are getting all the right nutrients. Counselling, we need more access to thetapist and pdycholigists; kids are afraid to talk to their parents they don’t want to upset or disappoint them, we need places for kids to go to, to get help.

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    • merle48 says:

      What you say is so true also. I really believe exercise of any type…especially outdoors, is so important for all of us. Too many new drugs coming on the market and probably not tested enough before being used by people (human guinea pigs, and foods laced with hormones, preservatives that we cannot pronounce…none of this could possibly be good for our kids, or anyone! It’s such a shame that average people do not have the funds to see or continue care with quality health professionals…yes, access for the average person is unavailable many times, and that is a travesty!

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  2. Dawn says:

    Yes, we need to avoid making generalizations and casting wide nets that certain types of family dynamics create certain environments more than others. There are nonchalant and uncaring and love lacking families of the two parent variety just as much as in single parent homes. It is a societal issue, not necessarily tagged to how many (or how old) the parents are. Having been a young mother (by choice, married at 18, and first child at 19) myself, and a single parent for most of my children’s lives it frustrates me to read this. It is this sentiment that contributes, in my opinion, to some of the challenges with the stigma of mental health. My personal experience relates to this – when I went to my family doctor with the note my son wrote me stating that he wanted to die and needed help I was lectured for 20 minutes on “what did you expect? You divorced his father when he was 4 years old and he clearly needs a better parenting style”. I left that office that day without help for my son because a medical professional believed that my son was suicidal and depressed because it was my fault for choosing to end an abusive marriage and raise my children as a single parent. Society needs to leave the judgments off the table and put the focus where it needs to be. On getting the people who need the help what they need. Trust me, all too often, the people close do see the trees and not just the forest … but with a mental health system as broken as ours is, accessing help may be a bigger problem than not seeing the problem in the first place.

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    • merle48 says:

      Yes I believe what you state about how difficult it is to access the mental health system without judgement on issues I mentioned, however, facts can’t be ignored either. It doesn’t help when judgement is passed on a person because of their single/married/age status, but it’s plain to see that there are a lot of mental health issues in homes that lack enough support…and you’re right, one good caring single mom/dad can have enough love and understanding for two parents. Once again, I am speaking from personal experience which I don’t care to get specific, but I have seen the poorer side of single” mom-hood” from, someone very close to me, and had a profound negative affect on her child. There will always be “professionals” in all fields that do not have good “bed side” manners, or social skills. I am sorry you were treated as such, and that is not right. I can also vouch for not realizing the seriousness of mental health issues within my own family…and I have experience in this field, and for me, the closeness, and knowing your own family, made it very difficult at first to view the illness as an outsider would.
      I also believe suicidal thoughts/behavior and depression is an extremely difficult type of mental illness…much too difficult to dish out clear cut answers simply based on family dynamics, but we cannot ignore that good dynamics within ANY type of family is fundamental to a healthy mind for the child. P.S. I KNEW I was commenting on a touchy subject, and speaking somewhat from my heart, and I never wanted to offend anyone,,,no two stories are the same!

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  3. merle48 says:

    “Happy Father’s Day to all those dads (and moms) who have taken time out of life to have children and to LOVE, CARE and SHARE their lives with them. Hold your children close because they grow up way too fast. And you never know what happens in life!!!” I see this first paragraph as a large part of the answer to the many “WHYS” that loved ones ask after the said tragedy occurs. We also have to “talk about” the broken families, as much of the time a child’s mental illness stems from the lack of love within the family that they so desperately need…especially in their formidable years. We have all observed loving/sharing/caring families, and angry/ broken/ nonchalant families. The dynamics observed (if comparing) are like night and day! Just look closely at the children and how they interact with their parents and others. Mental illness seeps in like a slow poison when there is no love to go around…and it’s so complicated to write out in a few sentences! However, my point is that mental illness can happen to anyone, and usually the closest ones (family) do not see” the forest for the trees.” Someone on the outside can pick it out much easier, and maybe advise the family. Because the world we live in today does not value the many of the same morals and traditions as 30 or more years ago, has made for a lot more hard work to be done just to get back on track with family dynamics that work. After all, we now live in a world that says it’s okay to have a baby at 15, be a single parent, and on top of all this, these kids have kids and are still experimenting with illegal substances of all kinds. Now I ask anyone, what kind of “family” will they be…love/care/share, or angry/broken/nonchalant ? Mentally stable or unstable? It answers a lot of the general questions raised about mental health, and also sets these children up for survival and resiliency, or weakness, learned helplessness, and defeat. How important is the FAMILY…it’s everything in my opinion!

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    • merle48 says:

      I just want to add that there are exceptions to all I’ve said above, but unfortunately in most cases, the changes that we accept nowadays doesn’t end so well with many. I’ve seen it with my own eyes, and lived it to a certain degree also.

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  4. Savetheworld says:

    A lot can be done to these applications on the Internet. Anything you can think of can be done it just costs $. Rules and policies must be put in place, It’s the only way to eliminate this problem also beyter monitoring and logging of userids etc . there dhould also be huge fines for those who get caught.

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  5. la Punisher says:

    Really nice post Carol
    Hope your day was great also
    Hugz 2U

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