July 22 – All it takes is one click ….

One of our city newspapers (The Province newspaper) had an article today about SEXTING today.

(http://www.theprovince.com/life/spinning+control+Sexting+among+teens+rise+despite+devastating/8687622/story.html)  It was 3 pages and was (in my opinion), very well written.  I knew it was being written.  I talked to the journalist reporter.  What I wasn’t prepared for was the photo they used.  I guess I was pleasantly surprised.  It struck me as interesting for the reason that the Justice Minister last Friday put out a press release about the government’s new legislation regarding the sending out of intimate photos.  And then Amanda had the cards that said that those haunting words we will never forget.   Every time something comes up, there is a piece of her video that corresponds.  I have only watched it twice in its entirety with music playing.  I just can’t do it.  If I need to see it, I choose to watch it without sound.  It’s easier for me.  As I look at the cards, there are so many lessons and discussions that can be had with them.  Things that can be learned by others. As Emily said in the article, it has changed the ways she and other teens look upon social media.  Snapchat.  Ask.fm.   Oovoo.  Tumblr.  Instagram.   To use or not to use?  And if you use, how will you choose to use it?

There were so many important details that can be learned and used from this article.

“Const. Heather Partridge, a VPD school liaison officer, says dealing with “sexts” and sexual pictures that are being spread around schools occupies about 30 per cent of her job. Ten years ago, the issue didn’t exist. Five years ago, it wasn’t really on the radar. But in the last couple years, the problem has only increased.”

“Experts say the Internet is certainly the new school playground where bullies and predators hunt for prey. But, unlike the real world, it’s much harder to put up fences.

The hope, experts say, lies in better education.”

“Police also see sexually explicit photos being used as blackmail. As in the Todd case, girls may be convinced to expose themselves on webcam once, and then be blackmailed into sending more photos.”

“Boys are vulnerable through the gaming world, where predators are known to pose as girls to get them to send sexual photos before threatening to post them unless they’re given money.”

“The Ministry of Education confirms the B.C. school curriculum does not specifically address sexting, although the province’s new ERASE Bullying resources and website contain material about cyberbullying.”

“The teens with the deepest understanding are those who have seen friends, or have themselves been, hurt by social media.”

How many teens in Canada have been affected by this?  How many have we lost?  I commend the federal government for finally tabling this and bringing a possible change to the criminal code.  But why has it taken this long.  There is cyberharassment.  There is also exploitation through photos.  Amanda Todd went through this. Rehtaeh Parsons went through this also.  It was brought to the attention of the government back in October 2012.  Then tabled again on April 24, 2013 after another death.  Why did it take 6 months?   Could history and events have been changed if something had happened back in October?   My heart says yes.  That is what saddens me.  The slowness of ‘the system’.  Why does it take tragedies to evoke change?  Why do we not look at things and think forwardly – all the positives and possible minuses?

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As I have said before, losing friends (whether you are young or old) is so very hard.  Especially when it is unexpected and there were no good-byes.  I am so glad that there is a bench for Amanda’s friends to sit on.  It is even a place for those who didn’t know Amanda when she was alive to come to (as I have seen recently).  In the past week, I have had a couple of Amanda’s friends come to the house to visit.  Now that her bedroom door is open, her friends can go up to her room if they want to.   One of her friends who came by last week brought her a sucker.   Thank you Jesse!!!  xoxo



There was a walk today dedicated to Amanda – Wreck Beach Preservation Society

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About Carol Todd

Being the mother of Amanda Todd has lead me on this journey shortly after Amanda's death on October 10, 2012. Amanda's prolific You Tube video has been viewed over 33 million times. Through this video, there has been an increased awareness about cyberbullying, social media safety and mental health. www.amandatoddlegacy.org
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13 Responses to July 22 – All it takes is one click ….

  1. gookymann says:

    I would have loved to take part in that run for Amanda. It is society that shames these girls like Amanda to leave our dimension. These girls should not be ashamed of their bodies or of showing them. God did not create us with clothing and He was not pleased to see His creation covered up. Nobody should be ashamed. Nobody should have to die because of that “one click” or a video or a whole series of clicks. Nobody should suffer from showing their bodies, being raped and filmed or being posted on a revenge porn page.

    Those that try to harm others by doing this should be ashamed of themselves but they are protected by the law. The law is wrong! Law is not the same as Justice. This is what needs to change. The guilty parties need to be revealed, and if only that, then at least they might be ashamed of themselves. Perhaps that might prevent them from repeating those crimes.

    Taking advantage of someone for their own pleasure is one thing, sharing that with others for their pleasure is another and using this to intentionally harm someone is manslaughter when not murder.

    I wish Amanda never felt ashamed, was never blackmailed, was never stalked, was never bullied, never cybebullied, was never beaten, never received hate mail, was never baited to suicide, had never attempted suicide and never succeeded at it.

    Amanda we love you ♥
    Amanda we miss you ♥


  2. Savetheworld says:

    Carol yes education is important, it’s not enough. Kids need protection! Yesterday!!

    I’m glad you were finally able to open the door to Amanda’s room. You are our warrior queen and Ananda is our warrior princess! You ve been so amaxing Carol, stay strong. You have an army of peiple supporting you. Xoxo


  3. velvet says:

    so sweet. Is that Amanda’s bed


  4. jag72 says:

    I became more.
    Amanda showed me the way to go.
    Even with young adult women, we must learn to respect and codes that govern the Internet.
    Yes I confess. I grew


  5. la Punisher says:

    Amanda has taught many good lessons, May her legend live forever.
    ” Baby girl, You will always be the brightest color in the rainbow, I hope it’s pink or purple.”


  6. jag72 says:

    Oui Amanda on vous aime .
    On lis parfois qu’il faut vous oublier !! Non jamais !
    Pourquoi des références hideuses de 1940-45 existerait il encore aujourd’hui alors que vôtre bataille viens tout juste de commencer ?

    J’aurai beaucoup aimé vous rencontrer et vous apporter la protection contre ces loups stupides et sans cervelle . 😦
    C’est pour cela que je serais un simple soldat de vôtre armée à l’échelle planétaire .
    Regrettable d’agir seul dans son coin mais mes amies répandront à leurs tour vôtre voix .


    • la Punisher says:

      Translation for jag72:
      Yes we love you Amanda.
      We sometimes read that you need to forget! Never!
      Why hideous references from 1940 to 1945 still exist today as yours just battle just begun?

      I have enjoyed meeting you and bring you protection against these stupid wolves and brainless. : (
      That is why I would be a single soldier of yours Army worldwide.
      Regrettable to act alone in the corner but my friends spread their turn voice yours.


  7. H.I.D. says:

    You Are Forever Loved Amanda. Always.


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