October 17th – 1 year and 7 days ….

I am not sure where the blog post that was here last night went.  Thre were comments on it and it just seemed to disappear.

Dear World,

I woke up today to the headlines about the story of Rebecca Sedwick in Florida and that two girls had been charged with the cyberharassment that was endured.


It makes me wonder again how kids can be that mean and cruel towards others. I always wonder — do their parents know? Are the differences in laws between Canada and the U.S. that different? The province of Manitoba just signed their bullying law on October 10, 2013. The same day as World Mental Health Day. The same day as the one year date of Amanda Todd’s passing. It’s a start!

Those headlines also made me think of the girl who assaulted Amanda and the friends she brought to watch. Also about the boy that was involved and about the stories they told each other to develop the plan of how and what they were to do to Amanda on that rainy cold day. And yes, it did take planning. Most of those kids that came to watch, they didn’t go to the same school as Amanda was attending. It was a fair walk to get from School A to School B. It is also fair to note that my daughter also had a choice to file an assault charge on the girl but Amanda decided not to as she wanted to leave that city and forget them and what they did.

She thought that moving away would be it, that there would be a time for peace. She was so very wrong. Many of them decided to continue their cruel game. I won’t name names but I know who they are. It’s sad. I wonder if THEIR parents know. I wonder how they feel now that young children are involved. Makes you think more deeply.


I was listening the other day to someone who said they knew the kids involved. That there was remorse from some but not others. How sad! Maybe one day, he/she could own up to what they did and not say it was ‘just funny to do’. I have the FB messages. It hurts to read them. A letter, note or meeting would be something for restorative justice. Amanda was a friend, sister, daughter, grandchild to those that loved her. Even those that didn’t know her love her now. She stands for strength as that is all she wanted at the end. To be left alone in peace but still after six months, one of the girls and her friends couldn’t leave Amanda alone. They decided to continue to harass her even further which created more stress and trauma that she had been learning to get rid of.

I would love to say — “It’s a wonderful world,” but I can’t right now.

But…I do have to say thank you for all the love and support in the past year and especially in the last five days since October 10, 2013. The days surrounding the 10th were better than I expected. I was sad and reflective but the people surrounding me in both my real and virtual world were so supportive. Many took time out of their day to see how I was. Or to send photos of themselves and others in purple. There were so many photos sent that we are still collecting them.

My October 10 was so much more better than I would have ever expected. All the kind and wonderful words of support and caring on my Facebook, Twitter, emails, and text messages kept me going through the day. I am still trying to catch up. Then when I started the Light Up the World Purple Campaign 2013 (this year was Year One), it took off like wildfire with the help of some diligent Snowflake Elves. I can’t wait to see what it will be like next year. If you haven’t seen the pics, go to www.amandatoddlegacy.org. Some of the photos have been posted there. There was definitely international support.

Thank you to everyone who was part of the Social Media Connection on Thursday night and the mayor of Coquitlam for turning the fountain at Lafarge Lake purple. It gave me a great feeling of peace and solitude to have Amanda’s family, friends and even people who I have met since October 10, 2012 there at the lake all together lighting candles and reflecting on life.

After Amanda passed and her snowflake logo was created, I always wanted the colour purple to be symbolic of an international effort to raise awareness about bullying and mental health (plus other issues). This past October 10 being one year of not having my daughter with me was the start (and it is only the beginning). I have spent the last few days resting and re-energizing for the next Snowflake Campaign. Amanda’s birthday is coming at the end of November and her birthday wish was to always have the Christmas lights on the house and glowing on the evening of November 27. Just because she is not with me in person doesn’t mean that this can’t happen. I invite anyone who wants to participate in this to do so. Take your pics. We will always find a place to post them.

Also, I do believe that snow will start falling soon, take the pics of the first snowflakes and send them. The Amanda Todd Legacy Society will produce a blanket of snowflakes for this coming winter which will keep us SAFE but maybe not so warm.

All my warm thoughts and love…xoxo P.S. WE Day Vancouver on  October 18!

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About Carol Todd

Being the mother of Amanda Todd has lead me on this journey shortly after Amanda's death on October 10, 2012. Amanda's prolific You Tube video has been viewed over 33 million times. Through this video, there has been an increased awareness about cyberbullying, social media safety and mental health. www.amandatoddlegacy.org
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8 Responses to October 17th – 1 year and 7 days ….

  1. Savetheworld says:

    I believe evil and good has always existed we are just witnessing more of it because of social media and the interent. These kids should be ashamed of themselves. What they did was dispicable and everyone who sat around and watched were just as guilty. These ugly people do not like themselves, they actually have feelings of self-loathing and envy and that is why they lash out at all the good people. I’ve seen it I’ve experienced it, bullying. These young bullies grow up to be big bullies unfortunately. I do believe in Karma though and Ive seen it work. Let God and the universe deal with these poor excuses for human beings. We love and support you Carol. ❤


  2. Hamsi says:

    The evidence for the Rebecca Sedgwick suicide arrests came from Facebook posts of the perpetrators. What exactly is RCMP waiting for?


  3. Renée B. says:

    Two days ago, I saw a beautiful, heartwarming picture of Amanda with a young man accompanied by a message from him which I found very touching. This young man really cared for her.

    Regarding the sample of FB comments you have shown us, I think that people, youth and adults, who make that kind of spiteful comments on social media are the ones who are stupid and whose lives are pointless (and what does Satan have to do with this!!!). They are trying to get attention by provoking and making insulting comments. And there are some idiots who “like” it…. Unbelievable!

    These people are cowards who feel that they get some sort of power by doing this. It infuriates me to think that they get away with it.

    The girls who harassed Amanda were jealous, envious, that’s plain to see. Personally, I think that assault and harassment charges should still be brought against them.


  4. merle48 says:

    “I would love to say it’s a wonderful world, but I can’t right now.” I believe there are two worlds…always have been…one is wonderful, the other is not. I think we all drift between both worlds at times. How could we ever appreciate the “good” without the antithesis of “bad?” Our world here on earth is not heaven, as there will always be obstacles that thwart the happiness we feel entitled to. It can’t be easy, and many already know that as they have heavy crosses to bear. However, the motivation towards refining our ways to become better human beings progresses for many of us who didn’t have a clue before learning of these, and other dreadful stories. It’s truly disheartening!


  5. Tristan says:

    The word ‘Deep’ comes to mind when reading this one! Like many others you have written. Its hard to shake off the feeling of ‘shock’ and ‘anger’; when reading those screen caps and hearing a little bit of what Amanda was facing each day. I can not imagine how that would make a very vulnerable 15 year old teen feel, and what it must of done to her spirit and emotion and self-esteem.I know she was not the only teen out there facing this type of harassment or was the last one; and sadly this kind of thing still continues amongst youths. It wasn’t until, learning of Amanda’s story that I personally was aware of these kinds of things happening to teens. It sure had opened my eye’s to the new generation of teenage harassment and bullying(cyberbullying) – and i know i am not alone. I believe that is what her story has done most, -was create and cause awareness of what can and does happen and go on. I also believe that was initially why she documented and posted her story for the world wide public, was to create that awareness, and what a job it did. It definitely reached people far and wide, and opened many eye’s, and grabbing many peoples hearts all at the same time. On another note, i am so amazed and impressed with All that has and is happening with her Legacy. The lighting up purple event turned out ‘incredible’ and was done in a short period of time. Can only imagine how big it will be by next year!. Her message continues to grow, and continues to reach peoples hearts for the first time. Its important for us to look at “what can be done NOW” and to take those first initial steps into bettering our world for our children.


  6. bless you for focusing your grief and energy to help other young people. i’m so sorry that we couldn’t help Amanda 😥


  7. la Punisher says:

    Hmmm. That is strange?? Might be wordpress, Carol… Change your password


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