The solitary black dot on the page

img_1258As I have said before, everyone has a story.  It might be a good one or it might be a tragically sad one.  But it is still a story.  Also, all stories have emotions connected to them but we may never know what the people behind the stories feel or think or want.

In the past few days, I have been contacted by media because of my recent decision to attend the trial in the Netherlands.  I have been judged by comments on posted articles with both positives and negatives.  The bravery of the keyboard brings out comments that would never be said face to face to a person.  The question we always face includes ‘Is this something to ignore?’or ‘Does one just walk away and say nothing?’  Sometimes the negatives absorb more than the postives.

Many often question what the real ‘mission’ is and just a few minutes ago, someone on one of my social media wall said this …”These sad comments are just validating the need for the work that you are doing.”  

I know that am not out for revenge or for hate.  What I do feel is sadness for those that thrive out of making others feel scared, miserable and less worthy of the person that they deserve to be.

Here is a story that was shared on my Facebook tonight:  “I have to share a story I read. There was a creative writing professor at a collage in Texas that gave his students an assignment he told them to write a page about the picture on the page that he was about to hand out but when he handed out the pages all that was on the page was a little black dot in the middle of the page the students were confused but they went home and came back the next day and handed in they’re assignment and when the professor read them they were all about the where the dot was aligned on the page and how small the dot was. Then he told them the assignment was to help me give you a life lesson you all only focused on the dark spot on the paper you paid no attention to the white all around the dark spot. In life to many people pay attention to the dark spots in there life and very little attention to the good things. We are so focused on the bad things and the bad people in our lives when the good things happen to us we enjoy them for a moment and then refocus on the bad things. When we meet a bad person that says and does bad things to us we focus on them and the hundreds of good people we have met we can’t enjoy because we’re focused on the bad. I say forget the bad things and forget the bad people live your life for the good things and surround yourself with good people and it will make you a better person.”

IMG_0263My thoughts after I read this was that yes, I see the black dot or the dark spot.  But I also see lots of white and colour on the page.  I see colourful dots that move around the black dot in hopes of making change, bring on a movement and just swirling around freely with no barriers.  The black dot (which may be the negative comment(s) which abound, but it doesn’t get me down because the colourful spots lift me up (which is the positivity of life). This is how we can learn resilience and overcoming those dark moments.

We know that it takes more brain power to create positive thoughts and comments.  Humans are using parts of their brain which facilitate the strengthening of logical reasoning and social emotions. This hopefully equates to more positivity and a transference to being kinder to others and being someone who stands up for others.

And that is my mission for others.

About Carol Todd

Being the mother of Amanda Todd has lead me on this journey shortly after Amanda's death on October 10, 2012. Amanda's prolific You Tube video has been viewed over 33 million times. Through this video, there has been an increased awareness about cyberbullying, social media safety and mental health.
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1 Response to The solitary black dot on the page

  1. merle48 says:

    When a person shares their ‘story’ whether good or not so good, it lets us know that they are reaching out for a few things such as understanding, a release, a reaction from us to either validate their actions or invalidate them. It’s all too easy to share on the internet to basically a handful of strangers, and just, if not more difficult, to read the negative comments from those who do not have to come face to face with us. Should we care? Yes, but in a way that not only eases our own psyche, but to understand that these sad souls are also looking for validation except it’s in the most misguided way. Carol, you appear like a heaily waxed automobile where the ‘water’ just beads up and rolls right off while you stay well-polished and protected. This did not come from one ‘waxing,’ but numerous ones over time, and the end result is a glorious shine and luster to your character. You “fight the good fight” and that is the only one that counts. I think this is a fitting quote: “We find comfort among those who agree with us — growth among those who don’t.” ~Frank A. Clark

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